So here's where the evil stepmom part comes in.
|Evil Step-mom face|
I'm totally ok with being the "bad guy". I was a single mom for eight years. My kids love me, and they have learned that I'm always going to be "in their business". It's not becauese I don't trust them, I don't go rifling through their stuff because they deserve privacy. But I do expect that they follow our house rules and if they don't then they'll end up losing privalages.
Some times it feels like we have two different sets of rules. I know that we only have Duckling at our house a few days out of the week. We don't want that time to be all strife, but I don't like bending the rules because of it. This whole situation makes me feel like more than just the "bad guy".