As some of you may know, I was recently handfasted to an amazing man. The challenge being that we're Pagan, we wanted the ceremony and reception to capture the essence of Beltane, and most of our guests aren't Pagan. This was made easier because most of our friends and family know (to some extent) that we're Pagan. The day was beautiful and everything went perfectly.
We wrote our own ceremony. One of our debates was whether or not to have our officiant say "Goddess and God". It was important to us that our guests enjoyed the day as much as we did. In the end we decided, what harm could come from those words. And it was very important to have the ceremony reflect us, our beliefs, and incorporate our children. A very special part was our family sand ceremony.
Now we will celebrate the creation of a family. The couple will first pour their sands into the vase, showing that their marriage is the foundation of this family. Their sands mix together and symbolize their bond of love and respect that can never be separated. Now as each child add their sands, we are reminded that though we are all different people, it is our individuality which adds a unique color to the tapestry of a family. Like the sands poured before it, so these sands will also mix and be unable to be separated.We poured our dark green and blue sands. Then each of our four children added their sand. Bug light green, Monkey red, Duckling purple, and Potato yellow. This was a tangible way to show how even though we are all separate and different people, together we make an inseparable family.
|Maypole on Var Table|
All of my concerns about completely coming out to all my friends, family, and his family I didn't have anything to worry about. Everyone enjoyed a day of celebrating, singing, and dancing. I couldn't have asked for a better day.
My advice to any of you partially or fully in the broom closet, make the day about you and your love, don't worry too much what others may think, and enjoy your day together.